Monday, June 7, 2010

The Narcissistic Vampire checklist

Emotional Vampires

True or false? Score one point for each true answer.

1. This person has achieved more than most people his or her age

2. This person is firmly convinced that he or she is better, smarter, or more talented than other people

3. This person loves competition, but is a poor loser

4. This person has fantasies of doing something great or being famous, and often expects to be treated as if these fantasies had already come true

5. This person has very little interest in what other people are thinking or feeling, unless he or she wants something from them

6. This person is a name dropper

7. To this person, it is very important to live in the right place and associate with the right people

8. This person takes advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals

9. This person usually manages to be in a category by him or herself

10. This person often feels put upon when asked to take care of his or her responsibilities to family, friends, or work group

11. This person regularly disregards rules or expects them to be changed because he or she is in some way special

12. This person becomes irritated when other people don't automatically do what he or she wants them to do, even when they have a good reason for not complying

13. This person reviews sports, art, and literature by telling you what he or she would have done instead

14. This person thinks most criticisms of him or her are motivated by jealousy

15. This person regards anything short of worship to be rejection

16. This person suffers from a congenital inability to recognize his or her own mistakes. On the rare occasions that this person does recognize a mistake, even the slightest error can precipitate a major depression

17. This person often explains why people who are better known than he or she is are not really all that great

18. This person often complains of being mistreated or misunderstood

19. People either love or hate this person

20. Despite this person's overly high opinion of him or herself, he or she is really quite intelligent and talented

Scoring: Five or more true answers qualifies the person as a Narcissistic Emotional Vampire, though not necessarily for a diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality. If the person scores higher than ten, and is not a member of the royal family, be careful that you aren't mistaken for one of the servants.


Albert Bernstein, author of Emotional Vampires link

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